26. Help others:
When you are gloomy and
worried about yourself, your future, your family, your health, your financial
status, your career problem, your vision is completely blocked. It is like a
big hillock standing between you and your true vision. In such circumstances
you have two options, either to more the hillock or get yourself away form it.
The later is easy to perform. So shift your attention for the time being to
some one else and come round the hillock to your destination. This does not
mean, however, that, planning your future career, health and financial
independence is bad in any way. There is however, a difference between planning
and brooding. When you truly plan you future four aspect are essentially
involved in it.
(a). You are happy with your present status. However you wants to reach
the higher goals.
(b). You are optimistic of you future goal and visualize vividly the
outcome as positive.
(c). Your are confident of your plan and for that matter your capacity to
execute it.
(d). You are ready, in case it happens so, to take the failure in your stride
and move ahead. This failure may take you below the status from where you have
started. It may also give you some permanent losses.
If these are the ingredients
of your planning there is no problem at all. However, the other side of it is
exactly opposite. You are unhappy today, desperate to get something or avoid
something, anxious and not confident. If this is the way you are planning your future
then STOP.
STOP for sometime and
drop your future altogether. Help others to elevate their present status. Their
present is more worse than your future.
Help others means
helping a needy person in any manner. Spending time, giving same money and
physical energy for others may even lift your present bad moods. However,
please don’t do it for the sake of it or for earning the name and fame. No major
work or huge amount is required here. And empathetic listening to a frustrated teenager boy is enough, without giving him any advice.
It is not known, how
helping others actually lift your level of well being.
There are tow reasons
for the same.
If you are spiritual,
helping others will give you satisfaction, you may feel your worth. You may find
a purpose and direction in your life. These all aspects will ultimately make
you feel good.
On the other hand, if
you are egoistic, you need to feed your ego daily. Ego is like a monster which
requires regular feeding. By helping others you inadvertently believe that you
have done something for others, and that you are an inch above others, or at
least you are not lower then the average person. There are hundred thousand people
below your slandered. This idea of feeding the ego through helping others is
still a debatable issue. Nevertheless, less this surety work for all person
alike.
More appropriate reason,
as I feel, is the feeling of worth. Someone in the word is there, who need you
help. This necessarily implies that, you are not worthless. A clinical
depression sets in with a strong feeling of worthlessness, uselessness, extreme
self pity. Extreme self guilt and a feeling of pitch dark future. Please know
it for sure; there are pure feeling, your temporary perception of the world and
your future. It has nothing to do with correctness or logical reasoning. Once
you know this and start helping others your mood starts lifting automatically.
This habit of helping others will stop your worthlessness and even prevent you
from taking extreme step of harming yourself.
So, ……………… start helping others. and feel your worth
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