22. Practice a time for worry.
“Life is
a sum total of how you feel right now.” You may say this idea is not suitable
for you. “I am already anxious and worried right now. How this strategy is
useful for me.” Believe me this is one of the most simple way to post-pone worries
and anxiety that you are facing almost all the time.
Generally
you have a tendency to get yourself trapped in your vicious circle of anxiety
and negative thoughts. This idea is to keep a card in your pocket and write down
the problem that is bothering you right now. Your have to fix a time in day
when you will resolve the problems written on your cards. Select a time in the
day, when you generally feel comfortable.
Allot a
time of, say fifteen minutes in a day to resolve all such problem that you have
written on your card throughout the day. You are allowed to find solution to
these problems, to be anxious, worried or even depressed during these fifteen minutes.
As soon as the time is over you have to tear out the paper /card.
What
this technique basically teaches you is, to postpone your bad mood for the time
being. Your brain responds when it is confirmed that, the issue will be resolved
later in the day. When you take out the card, What actually happens is you feel
you are not bothered about the issue any more. It was the time and situation
that make you think in that.way You may feel that the issues are not that
important and it is not necessary to brood over such trivial issues. May be that
was ‘time trap’ which made you think the other way.
Two
things to be observed here, the time selection should be such that, you generally
feel good during those fifteen minutes, secondly selected time should not be
more then fifteen minutes.
This
does not necessary means all that you feel at certain time is useless. Some of
the issues may require immediate attention. Take two examples:
1.
Preparing a project report on dead line –say by today evening.
This requires immediate attention in the morning; you can not postpone it till
evening.
2.
Fear of preparing a project report day after tomorrow.
This is a feeling of fear and needs to be postponed.
Understand the difference
and allow some time for worry.
A word of caution.This should not mean I am advocating procrastination Learn the difference between actual work and fear of work or fear of outcome.
Practice the time for worry.....fix the time and remain blissful rest of the time
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