A workshop on coping with Depression in Mumbai

Hi friends
 For all those struggling with depression ,here is the way out.
 A Free workshop is arranged by one of the ex patient,on how to convert your depression in to a gift from God.
Date..22nd April 2017
Time ..5 to 9 pm
Venue..Room no 102
All India Institute of Local Self Government
Juhu Gully
Andheri West
Mumbai
Fees....Nil,only come with a note book and Pen
Book on...amitjdave@yahoo.com
Amit

Here is the way out for the patients of Depression

hi
  Here is the way out for the patients of depression.The book -A GIFTED TOY - is the out come of my own struggle ,coping with depression. It gives lots of practical tips to come out with flying colours.
  The idea is to handle it in four steps
1) Aware ...of the problem
2) Accept..it as a gift from God and take medicine/help
3)Fight back...use various techniques given in the book- A GIFTED TOY-
4) Enjoy freedom ...and help others

 The book is self published on no profit no loss basis...Rs 100/ only
pl contact....amitjdave@yahoo.com
                   a.amitjdave@rediffmail.com

 May you succeed in the struggle

Amit Dave

Overcoming (coming out of) major depression

hi
 Here is the steady and sure way to cope with major depression and to overcome the same.
 please read the blog completely .
 If you wish the book is published named " A Gifted Toy" and  e published by pothi.com
 Wish you sure and speedy recovery
Amit Dave

A GIFTED TOY...(tame the monster within)

Hi
  Here is a short poem which I have composed and which is base (title poem) of the book.
 It describes feeling of a man, who finds himself ,suddenly,trapped under heavy feelings and mood swings
 It ultimately says, if you can treat your negative feelings and mood swings as a friend ,it will become easier for you to cope with them quickly.


       A GIFTED –TOY (tame the monster inside you)

I was rushing down the road.

Singing, jumping all along in joyous mood.

On a sharp corner, fogy day and far way.

I bumped into a monster blocking my way.

I was knocked down, bleeding on the road side,

The monster was laughing loud and wide,

I lay there for days unknown,

Woke up to see the rainy afternoon.

There were rains, lightning and thunder storm,

I had to lie there, why I don’t know,

Rain stopped and rainbow sighted

Birds seen flying, singing and delighted,

There was joy in all woods around

But I was scared, looking the monster around.

Few boys came around I did not say any thing but,

They lifted me up and took me to a hut.

I met my GURUJI, whom I know as my mentor

He gave me food, medicine and shelter,

He taught me the ways and means for

How to live happily once again

“Still I am scared GURUJI,” once I screamed

“I always see monster in my dream”

“Why do you think” said Guruji “Monster blocking you”

“It is now only inside you and you only are blocking you”

“Learn the ways and art of life”

Take the inner monster in your stride”

“Make it your best friend, O my boy”

It is a blessing in disguise and A GIFTED TOY.  

48. A GIFTED TOY ..(tamed monster,a buddy)

48. A GIFTED TOY

(tamed monster, a buddy)

O Guruji, thank you a zillion times,

you made me your boy.

now only, I can understand,

and accept this monster as a gifted toy.

Now I can play with him, if I want,

and turn it off when I don’t.

I allow it to play with myself,

and then pack it off to the shelf.

The monster sometimes smiles,

And walk with me, hand in hand, for miles.

Sometimes, when I am unable to walk,

He lifts me up, and run, shunning the talk.

He is my buddy, if I deploy

         I know, for sure, it is my GIFTED TOY.            

47 Accept the consequences of your action and built up confidence

47. Accept the consequences of your action and built up confidence:

            The other day my son was with me, when we saw a lady close her doors, put a lock and then checks it nearly a dozen times. Not only that, after walking a few steps she will came back and again recheck the lock for half a dozen times.

            “She do not have confidence” my son tried to explain it to me.

            “Oh, yes, may be” I replied casually.

Later, when I tried to analyses the event I find that it is not only lack of confidence  which make you behave in such manner. Yes, it is lack of confidence but it is one third of the story.

            There are three aspects involved in such action oriented behavior.

1. Lack of confidence.
2. Not ready to accept the consequences of action.
3. Negative interpretation of consequences.

We are all aware of the first past of such behavior, namely lack of confidence. This also stems out from the fact that, it may have some past records. And that she has given the incidence a ‘trigger’ Status. For instance, the lady in question may not be worried about her office drawer being open or close. Because she has not thought enough negative on that event, where as here she has given a status of trigger by thinking in the negative way several times may be years together.

            The second part is ‘not ready to accept the consequence of action.’ If you are ready to accept what ever is out come of your action, you are not bothered. If the lady is ready to accept the fact that her house can be burgled if kept upon, she can remain at peace. She is not bothered by the office drawer because he accepts the consequence of it, if it is remained open overnight.

            The third part, which is more important then the above two is interpretation of consequence. This is the main factor which determines your behavior. If you attach very bad feeling to your outcome of action or even possible out come of action you are too cautious. If the lady in once example believes that, it is a disaster to keep her house open overnight and that she can not forgive herself for such lapses, she is extremely cautions not to make any mistake to the extent of one in millions and in the process, she losses the confidence. The whole vicious circle is then completed. She do not know why she behaves this way. Infect, she wants to stop such behavior forcibly.

            To solve the mystery of such behaviors – you have to address all three aspects. Better you start addressing the third one, then second. If you address third and second aspects mentored above, your confidence will automatically be taken care. Be aware that, confidence does not come alone and that too forcibly without resolving the other two parts of your personality traits.

Accept the consequences and built up confidence.

46. Forgive and forgive...new tecnique

46.. Forgive and forgive:

            This is the modified version of “forget and forgive”. There is a wide difference between to forget and to forgive. If I say “I have forgotten your name” It has no meaning as far as the emotional pain or pleasure is concerned. where as forgiveness comes after knowing truly the event, the consequences and the pain that the event has given to you.”

            The work forget (forgetting) and forgive (forgiving) in it self suggests that one is “for getting” something while the other is “for giving” something.

            Forgiving others is completely a simple process if you have compassion as one of your core value.where as, forgiving oneself is very difficult if you have stringent rules for evaluating your own performance or if you have highest values.

            Some thirty five years back while traveling in a  steam engine driven train in Northern Gujarat, I lost my bag containing all original documents of my career up to the final semester engineering exam mark sheets. It shook me to the bottom, thinking it was a disaster. “How I can be so careless to miss a bag containing such important documents?”  I could not explain it to myself I could get duplicate copies of them all now. As I look back on the event occurred some thirty five years ago it has no significance today. I have not forgotten the incidence; I still remember vividly what exactly happened and how I felt those days. Nevertheless I have forgiven myself for my lapse may be blunder. I will not get upset whenever; I remember this incidence now on the contrary I smile over it and move on. Infect, I often remember this incidence to tone down, my pain of current lapses or mistakes. I know it for sure, that any incidence has no major significance after certain period of time.

            Forgiving others and most importantly forgiving. oneself is the key to unload tons of emotional load from your head.

            This does not, however, mean that you should not act when it is required to take immediate action. This is useful only when an event has already occurred and you have no control whatsoever over it. Only forgiveness will work in such cases.

            Learn the technique of ‘forgive (others) and forgive (yourself too)”………

            Asking you to forgive yourself and drop the guilt is easier said the done. I know.. I have first hand experience of it. I tell you guilt is one of the worst things that can happen to you. And it is the prime cause of clinical depression.

            Here is the way out. Key is to write down on a piece of paper the worst emotions then soothing lines at the end of letter-note. More and more time you write and say I forgive my self, you feel better.

            One of the fastest way is to do following steps.

1. Remember the event which gives you immense guilt.
2. Close the eyes.
3. Clinch the left arm fist and immediately remember a good experience of your life… feel that good experience now.
4. Do this several times in a day.

Both this techniques will slowly but certainly reduce your guilt load.

So…. Forgive (others) and forgive (yourself too)”